Dear Rod,
We all question everything that we knew or believed to be fact., Its just nice to hear someone else admit it [insert chuckle here]. I’m glad that you’re looking and hopefully will find something that we may have missed.
There are a lot of books written on the family by various authors giving different sources, we’re always hoping to find more. I have references many here at the blog.
The best place to start looking is your hometown library. See what they have on your individual family line. Check for any obituary’s and check them against what your family believes to be accurate.
Tread lightly, and don’t take anything at face value. Take it from me, my mom’s own death certificate is wrong in three places. I do need to get that fixed. Family members are overwhelmed when they’re asked for this information and its hard to pull out of thin air at times, especially when you’re upset. Last week when asked what my youngest son’s eye color was, I couldn’t remember. I had to ask him. How embarrassing?! But it does happen when your stressed. So now, I question everything.
My oldest brother never wants to talk about this stuff, because he has an amazing memory. He can’t forget, all the little things, it overwhelms him at times, and he hates that part. So I usually get him to talk to my oldest sister. She’ll ask a million and one questions and he’ll answer most or some, until he can find the best way to get off the phone. But do take the time to ask the questions. Memories aren’t always accurate, but valuable.
I have an aunt that is soon to pass and I want to fly out and interview her. It may not be the best way to get accurate info., but I want to hear how she remembers things. Even if it were all wrong, it would be from her perspective. That alone, is a jewel worth owning.
Thanks for your comment and Welcome to the Family,
Sheila Jean Adkins Metcalf